Episode 12

Getting Clear On What is Behind Our Disappointment in Relationships

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November 5th, 2019

31 mins 4 secs

Season 3

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About this Episode

During this episode we consider two important questions that will help us get clear about what is behind our disappointment. If we take time to discover the answers to these two questions, it will help us have the conversation that will ultimately help us close the gap on what we expected and what we are experiencing.

Discussion Questions:

Think about a time that you were experiencing disappointment in a friendship. As you reflect on your disappoint, what was the unmet need underneath the disappoint? Can you look at the situation from their perspective? What was your friend’s unmet need?

In that same scenario if you were to accuse and excuse what might that look like? How did you make yourself look better than you really are in your story? How did you make them look worse than they really are?

How does identifying these inaccurate or incomplete stories help you close the gap on your disappointment?

Challenge:
Each time you experience some disappointment start to name, just for yourself, what the unmet need is behind that disappointment. Get some practice in on getting to the need that will ultimately help you lessen the gap between what you expected and what is really going on. Identify those unmet needs.

Invitation:
We hope to see you at the RELATE Podcast Live Recording Event! Join us on Friday, November 15, 2019 at 7pm. We will be having a fun, interactive conversation that we hope you won’t miss! We will be in the Atrium at Willow Creek Church at 67 E Algonquin Rd, South Barrington, IL

Walk ins are always welcome but if you know you’re coming please let us know by registering at [willowcreek.org/relate](www.willowcreek.org/relate). Register yourself and some fun friends!

Resources:
Leadership and Self Deception by the Arbinger Institute
Crucial Conversations by Kerry Patterson & Joseph Grenny
Renovate Your Relationships by Scott Vaudrey